People with narcissistic personalities typically exhibit characteristics such as:
- strong sense of self-importance and entitlement
- preoccupation with success and power
- need for excessive admiration
- lack of empathy
- manipulative behavior
If you’re in a relationship with someone who displays these tendencies, you may feel devalued, unimportant, and unappreciated. You may also find it challenging to get your needs met or to have an honest and open conversation without feeling attacked.
Narcissists often try to control and manipulate the people around them. They also tend to take more than they give and expect others always to be available to them.
Setting boundaries is essential in any relationship, but it’s especially important when dealing with a narcissist. If you don’t set boundaries, you may be used and taken advantage of.
When you are setting boundaries, this isn’t about attempting to control or change the other person. Narcissists are unlikely to change and will likely only see any attempt to change them as a personal attack.
Instead of setting up boundaries for them, focus on setting boundaries for yourself. Know what you are and are not willing to do. Be firm and assertive in your communication. And don’t be afraid to walk away from a situation if it becomes too toxic or abusive.
Know Your Worth
One of the most challenging things about being in a relationship with a narcissist is feeling like you’re never good enough. Narcissists often try to devalue and put down the people around them to make themselves feel better.
It’s important to remember that you are not responsible for their happiness and that their opinion of you does not define your worth. Rather than trying to please them or meet their expectations, focus on taking care of yourself and living a life that is authentic to you.
Establish a Healthy Support System
Look for friends or family members who are supportive and who will have your back. These people can provide a listening ear, offer advice, and be a shoulder to cry on when needed.
Their outside perspective can also help put things into perspective and help you to see the situation for what it is – narcissists are often very good at gaslighting and distorting the truth.
In addition, consider seeking out professional help. A therapist can provide support and guidance and can help you to develop healthy coping mechanisms for dealing with a narcissistic partner.
It Might Be Time To Move On
Sometimes it’s not worth it to try to make things work. When a relationship is built on a foundation of manipulation, control, and abuse, it will not change into a healthy, supportive, and loving relationship.
Focus on your self-care and surround yourself with people who love and respect you. Your happiness and well-being are too important to sacrifice for a relationship that isn’t working.